Please be honest with yourself and review each symptom one by one to see if you experience any of them. Provide feedback on the symptoms that apply to you, and for each one, give specific examples of what happened. If multiple people are involved, please use different nicknames for your partners to distinguish them.

Example: I related to NO. 5: When I was 28, I installed Tinder right after my breakup because I felt sad about my ex and wanted to distract myself. I ended up having many sexual encounters, which made me feel worse.

☐ 1. Having few healthy boundaries, we become sexually involved with and/or emotionally attached to people without knowing them.

☐ 2. Fearing abandonment and loneliness, we stay in and return to painful, destructive relationships, concealing our dependency needs from ourselves and others, growing more isolated and alienated from friends and loved ones, ourselves, and God.

☐ 3. Fearing emotional and/or sexual deprivation, we compulsively pursue and involve ourselves in one relationship after another, sometimes having more than one sexual or emotional liaison at a time.

☐ 4. We confuse love with neediness, physical and sexual attraction, pity and/or the need to rescue or be rescued.

☐ 5. We feel empty and incomplete when we are alone. Even though we fear intimacy and commitment, we continually search for relationships and sexual contacts.

☐ 6. We sexualize stress, guilt, loneliness, anger, shame, fear and envy. We use sex or emotional dependence as substitutes for nurturing, care, and support.

☐ 7. We use sex and emotional involvement to manipulate and control others.

☐ 8. We become immobilized or seriously distracted by romantic or sexual obsessions or fantasies.

☐ 9. We avoid responsibility for ourselves by attaching ourselves to people who are emotionally unavailable.

☐ 10. We stay enslaved to emotional dependency, romantic intrigue, or compulsive sexual activities.

☐ 11. To avoid feeling vulnerable, we may retreat from all intimate involvement, mistaking sexual and emotional anorexia for recovery.

☐ 12. We assign magical qualities to others. We idealize and pursue them, then blame them for not fulfilling our fantasies and expectations.

智慧女神譚崔自我診斷

請誠實的面對自己，逐條查看自己是否有各症狀，將符合你的症狀反饋給我，每一條症狀請舉例說明具體發生了什麼，如果涉及多人，請為你的伴侶標註不同暱稱以區分。

如：我有第5條傾向：當我28歲時，我在分手後立刻下載了Tinder，因為我對前任感到難過，想轉移注意力。結果我有了許多性經驗，這讓我感覺更糟。

☐ 1.  缺乏健康的界限，我們在不了解對方的情況下與人發生性關係或情感依賴。

☐ 2. 害怕被拋棄和孤獨，我們待在痛苦、破壞性的關係中，甚至會回到這些關係裡。我們對自己和他人隱藏依賴的需求，逐漸與朋友、愛人、自己以及上帝疏離。

☐ 3. 害怕情感和/或性剝奪，我們強迫性地追求並陷入一段又一段關係，有時同時擁有多個性或情感聯繫。

☐ 4. 我們將愛與需求、身體和性吸引、憐憫和/或拯救與被拯救的需要混淆。

☐ 5. 當我們獨處時感到空虛和不完整。儘管我們害怕親密和承諾，卻不斷尋找關係和性接觸。

☐ 6. 我們將壓力、內疚、孤獨、憤怒、羞恥、恐懼和嫉妒性化。我們將性或情感依賴作為關愛和支持的替代品。

☐ 7. 我們利用性和情感關係來操控和控制他人。

☐ 8. 我們被浪漫或性幻想所困擾，無法行動或嚴重分心。

☐ 9. 我們通過依附於情感上不可接近的人來逃避對自己的責任。

☐ 10. 我們被情感依賴、浪漫迷戀或強迫性性活動束縛。

☐ 11. 為了避免感到脆弱，我們可能退縮，遠離所有親密關係，誤以為性和情感禁慾是康復的表現。

☐ 12. 我們賦予他人神奇的特質。我們理想化並追求他們，然後責怪他們沒有滿足我們的幻想和期望。